The Midlife Revolution
This January Make a New Year Revolution
December 7, 2022
It’s that time of the year when we leave most of our plans, goals and ambitions for next year as time for new year’s resolutions is approaching fast.
For now, we are entering the ‘f*** it, it’s Christmas’ period 
I’m a pro at bossing this attitude too, but not this year…
I have been so busy being all over the place 
(literally 
), although I know Christmas is coming, I somehow missed the fact that the year is almost over and it wasn’t until I was leaving the house this morning, frosty 
Vancouver air hit me in the face and I noticed a gorgeous Christmas wreath on the front door that I realized that the year is really coming to an end.
And what a hell (literally, at some points) of a year it has been.
My walk to my new favorite coffee place (I always seem to find some wonderful, independent places and Crepe & Cafe in Vancouver is one of them. Its comfy sofas and welcoming armchairs, bird songs in the background and the kindest people running it are so inviting I do a lot of my writing here) got me all reflective.
This time last year, I was happily married, working for a company I loved, I just finished my masters and was getting super excited for Christmas and going to the Maldives in the first week of January.
First week of December meant getting the house decorated inside and out, getting my ridiculous collection of Christmas jumpers ready for the month (I never had to worry what to wear in December as the question always was only – which Christmas jumper to wear 
) and of course spending hours on research and buying of the perfect gifts (my favorite task!).
Today, I realized that this year buying gifts somehow hasn’t even crossed my mind yet, I have only two (Christmas-ish looking jumpers) and I don’t own a single Christmas decoration (my loft used to be full of them)…if someone has shown me today’s Nina & her life this time last year, I would have never believed…
As I am leaving Crepe & Cafe, it’s starting to snow – my first snowflakes this year – and I realized that my lifelong dream of Christmas in Canada is happening. I am living it, I am experiencing it, I am breathing it and I am loving it.
This realization somehow surprised me though… before a memory of pinning ‘Christmas in Canada’ to my Pinterest board a few years ago and wondering how I am going to ever make it happen flashes before my eyes.
I didn’t just pin an image of a Christmas tree decorated with Canadian flags – I had the whole dream of the house, the garden, the mountain view, the sledge by the front door pinned…and I genuinely wondered if it’s ever going to happen – considering home and families being in the UK…
Well, it’s happening. Completely not in the way I would have ever imagined or wished for, but it is happening…the moral of the story is be careful what you pin for! 
My biggest realization today, however, isn’t about the location, isn’t about the job and isn’t about the marriage that no longer exists.
My biggest realization is that how I am feeling today is pure and solid evidence of the work that I did being effective.
As someone who is a complete Christmas freak, for whom this truly has always been the most wonderful time of the year; who would live for the magic of the festive period – there was always a chance that this year being so different will bring a hint of sadness in me. That it could somehow open up a wound I thought was healed.
That it could bring feelings of being alone or somehow missing out on the magic.
YET… None of the above is true for me today.
Realizing how close Christmas really is, filled my heart with joy. Remembering that this was my life long dream that I am now actually living made me feel in awe of life and its mysterious ways of working.
Feeling so much joy, love and gratitude (today and every single day) makes me feel proud of how I got through hell at the start of the year.
I am grateful that even in my hardest moments and in the darkest nights of the soul – I didn’t give up.
I didn’t stop doing the work.
I didn’t allow my comfort zone to pull me back in.
As someone said to me recently “most people in your situation would curl up in a fetal position and cry, you stood up and despite not feeling the strength, started to walk towards your future and away from your past”. And indeed I did, as I truly believe that we need to be the change we want to see in our lives (and the world).
My Midlife Revolution although sparked by an adversity, has not only worked but worked out wayyyyy better than I could have imagined.
And I know it’s not the last one…as now I learnt how to truly change and transform and not just keep hoping that new year, will bring new me.
If you want to learn how to execute your own revolution, get your Christmas mitts on “The Midlife Revolution” ebook.
💫 Get better not bitter
💫 Choose courage over fear
💫 Choose wisdom over wounds
💫 Lead with love, not hatred
This is so inspiring! You are living proof that the good you put into the works comes back to you bigger and better than you can ever expect.. I’m going to look at my vision board with fresh eyes and be super intentional about what I pin. 😁
Absolutely! Pin, surrender and don’t try to figure out how it’s going to come 🙃